from Swipe to Soul

For the version of you ready to love without losing yourself.

Welcome, I'm so glad you're here.

And I don’t say that lightly.

If you're anything like me, or the many beautiful humans I’ve sat with as a therapist, you’re not just looking for another coping skill, tip, or workbook. You’re looking for a space that meets you where you are: real, raw, healing, growing. You want love. Not just any love, but the kind that feels safe. Nourishing. Soulful. Love that honors who you are now, not who you had to be to survive.

This is from Swipe to Soul, and it’s personal.

I created this outline not just as a professional, but as a person who has walked through trauma, untangled attachment wounds, wrestled with self-worth, and yes, braved the wild, weird world of dating apps while healing. I've felt the ache of wanting connection and the fear of losing myself in it. I've fallen. I've learned. I'm healing. And I’ve seen what becomes possible when we stop chasing love and start becoming love.

Who this is for:

• You’ve done deep healing work and are now stepping into a new relationship or preparing for one.

• You're still single but deeply ready for aligned, conscious love.

• You’re done with surface-level swipes and small talk; you crave intimacy, safety, and truth.

• You're exploring how to love and be loved without abandoning yourself.

Whether you've taken The Dating Experiments or this is your first dip into this work, know this: you're right on time. There’s wisdom and softness waiting here for you.

This isn’t about finding the perfect partner. It’s about becoming the version of you that no longer settles for performative love. The version of you that’s grounded, radiant, and deeply kind to your own heart.

Here’s what we’ll explore together:

1. What I Want Love to Feel Like

We’ll start by re-centering your definition of love. Not the fantasy. Not the fear. But the real, embodied truth of how you want to feel in connection. This is the compass for everything else.

2. Relational Needs + Vulnerability Practice

We'll get honest about what you need, not performatively, not to be "chosen" but to feel emotionally nourished. And we’ll practice asking for it. Gently. Bravely.

3. Intimacy Styles & Attachment Awareness

You’ll map your intimacy rhythm, your natural pace, patterns, and preferences, and explore how attachment history plays into your connection style. With compassion, always.

4. Love Without Losing Myself

This one’s close to my heart. You’ll learn tools to stay rooted in yourself even as you open to deeper connection. Because you should never have to choose between love and self.

5. Relationship Rituals & Emotional Maintenance

Beyond the spark, we’ll explore the daily, tender ways we keep love healthy. Real intimacy isn’t just found, it’s nurtured. Maintained. Cared for.

6. Soul-Expanding Love Vision

Finally, you’ll craft your personal vision, not from fantasy, but from embodied hope and readiness. We’ll anchor it in who you are now, and who you’re becoming.

Whether you're single, in a relationship, or somewhere beautifully in between, you belong here.

This is sacred work. And it’s doable. Let’s build love from the inside out.

I invite you to follow along with future blog posts, where we’ll gently dive deeper into each of the six sections. Together, we’ll explore the heart of each theme with real tools, personal reflections, and soulful reminders that love (especially the kind worth keeping) always begins within.

-Stephanie